Shina Sawhney

Side 1:

Loving someone doesn’t come with a contract to agree to tell them yes all the time, they are great all the time, they are perfect all the time and etc. In fact, being a “yes-man” to someone you love stunts their growth; people need constructive criticism in order to progress. We as human feed off each other in knowing what we do best and what we do worst. When we hear criticism from those we love or those we hold close to our hearts, we get upset, and unless the other person is purposefully demeaning us, we shouldnt. Getting criticism from someone close shows their honestly and also the love they have for you. It shows how they want to see you grow and reach your full potential… you can take it however you want, its just easier to think the person is helping you vs getting angry and upset with them.

Rebuttle:

Now on the other hand, if you are the person critiquing, you must learn how to properly and respectfully talk to people. Not everyone in your life in the same, you cant show tough love to everyone and you cant be soft to everyone. Each person is unique and you really need to find the best suited way to get your helpful thoughts and suggestions across. Be patient and understand 2 very important things.
1. They will change, if THEY want to. 
2. Be happy with effort, even if it shows no overnight results.
People are not fed ex overnight shipping lol a new them doesnt arrive in 24 hours, if you give someone a critique, and they are attempting to change, that alone should show you they care enough to take you into consideration. Maybe they dont want to change everything, and thats fine, but dont let that stop you from giving kudos to the things they did change or even tried to change. People wont live their lives according to you and you cant really make them do anything. Accept that. Being respectful of one another is respecting each others individuality…So even if they dont make that complete 360, give thanks they made that 180, and by giving thanks you show your appriciation, you show your respects, and more importantly you give that person a reason to want to change and be better =)

-Shina

God’s the greatest at everything. He is great at giving people things, but he is also great at taking them away. Please dont make the mistake of taking anyone or anything for granted, truthfully, everything that was ever given to us, no matter how small, was a gift. To treat everything and everyone that way leaves us to no room to take things for granted. That person didnt have to be at the right place and the right time for you two to meet. That person didnt have to smile at you. Your friends dont have to always come bail you out. Your parents do have the option of saying no when you ask for money. Your car didnt have to start this morning. And the list goes on. Being ‘picky appreciative’ only gets you ‘picky results’. But to leave yourself open to be thankful, to love, to be kind hearted, and to always do your best, leaves a major variety of doors open for you.

Learn to love the smallest things and be thankful that they are there. Not every moment has to be some great miracle. Miracles are only as we define them, and if everything as small as someone smiling is a miracle, where could we go wrong in loving our lives and being appriciative of them and the people that surround them…?

=)

-Shina

The greatest relationships are grown from the seed of beautiful friendships. When your just friends with someone, there is no crazyness involved. you just hang with that person, talk to them, play video games together, discuss what books you two are reading, you are there for each other, you learn from each other and its just real simple. No RARA, no crazyness. Plain, straight like that. You get to really know the ins and outs to a friend. This is because you guys arent out to date, meaning you guys act yourself and not try to put the best foot forward to impress the other person. I cant tell you HOW MANY times i witness people who go out to dates, really like the person and just 1 year into the relationship, they are like “who the fuck am i dating, i thought he was this and i thought he was that but hes really a asshole” lol See, this is because BOTH of you put on a front to try and impress each other but after a while that front fades away with getting comfortable with that person. Being JUST FRIENDS builds a better foundation for a relationship. Rushing into a relationship is truly unwise, to me at least. I know everyone wants someone to come home to, someone to love and receive love from in return, we all want the fly gifts for our birthdays and valentines, i know i know, but think of it like this : you can have a halfass relationship now, and have a couple of them to get you through the years, or you can wait, really search for who your looking for and find them for a long lasting healthy relationship. Which is it going to be? there are plenty of joe schmoes that are good looking, shit you can take ANY one of them home, but does that satisfy your hunger? Or do you want that joe schmoe who proves to be above average, and is educated, classy, funny, cute, charming, loving, caring and all of the other great adjective you can think of in ONE. Patience brings us what we want and desire. Rushing puts you in positions to think with your emotions and just react, which never really proves to do any good unless you are using instinct. Really knowing the person you CHOSE to fall in love with makes all the difference down the road. you know what pisses them off, so you dont do it. Its not trial and error because you already know. you know about their past and what hurts them, so you make sure you dont do it. you know about everything, so you can move away from the past and help that person achieve great things for their future. “relationships’ have seemed to lose their meaning. A relationship to me is 2 people who know each other, respect each other, are tolerent of one another, trust one another with their LIVES, are the best of freaking friends, and who truly want to see the other person achieve great things and join them in that journey even when the road is rough. Thats what a HEALTHY relationship is. You cant find all that in knowing someone for a week or a couple of months. really ‘dig’ into the person you want to be with. Not sexually, lmao. No not like that you fool, i mean really uncover their flesh and surface their soul. As i said above, a Relationship is just a ship of relations, do you trust your captin to steer you in the right direction? are you willing to stay on the ship through the oceans heavy storms in order to reach another island with that captin? can you trust your captin to see you as a captin as well? do you BOTH own the ship? If not, its time to depart onto another ship, trust there are plenty out there, no sea only has one trading route, so no sea has only one ship ;)

Much Love,

Shina =)!

I might sound really blunt in this post, dont take it as bitch city, take it as motivation. Fear of telling people things keeps us where we are. Fear of telling a best friend they are doing something that is hurting you, keeps you from saying what you need to say, because your SCARED to lose the friendship. Same rules apply to co workers or bosses because your SCARED to lose your job. Same rules applies to boyfriends and girlfriends because your SCARED to lose your relationship. But think one step past that, if you overcome your fear and tell them, and still lose the relationship, is that a relationship you want in the first place? Being fearless is being beautiful because you posses the skills to move yourself forward. Overcoming this fear puts you in a position of power over your own life because you are no longer scared to lose things that are already poisonous to you. Most people only lose the fear when they are fed up and angry. By then they are knee deep in the situation, have passed up a tremendous amount of various opportunities, and feel as if they have wasted so much time, which in reality they have. Malcolm X said it best “Usually when people are sad, they don’t do anything. They just cry over their condition. But when they get angry, they bring about a change” So whats it going to be? are you going to wait another fucking day putting up with the same bullshit from people, or are you going to stand up for yourself? are you going to wait for someone to push your buttons forcing you to constantly buy a new shirt, or are you going to nip that wrist when it moves in your direction? Being a doormat will never have you accomplish anything and you will never truly prosper. Being the nice person EVERY SINGLE FCKING TIME, does not come in the guidelines of prospering. you will get chewed out. Life is about balance, know when to be nice, always be respectful, but also know when to lay the law down. you can be the doormat to the house, or you can own that fucking house and regulate every damn person coming in and out…choice as always, lays in your hands.

Much Love,

Shina.

When i see women out here acting crazy, i feel sorry for their parents. I dont know everyone’s home situation, but still, that is no excuse to dress and act the way half of these women do. I know that when im out, even if my parents aren’t around, i still have to hold myself to respectable standards because i carry the family name. Everything i do outside of my home is seen by one person or another, i would never want to do anything that brings my family head/heart ache. Carrying your family name with respect is important because one day you will want your kids to do the same…

If your parents were around, would you be doing HALF of the things you do?…

-Shina

I HATE the smell of smoke. cigarettes, weed, black and milds, all of that makes me get a headache and feel like i need to throw up. As a kid i would go to my fathers store in the city and this dark clog of new ports could be smelled from miles away. It would leave me like totally nauseous, 4 years old coughing and turning red as the batphone lol This is one of the reasons i don’t hang out in clubs and bars, that clog of smoke will kill me, im sure, i have convinced myself of this lol. Every time my managers come in from a smoke break i just want to tell them to get the fuck away from me and not walk past my direction. They smell like nasty vacuum cleaner bags with rotten milk in them lol Another reason why i don’t hang around clubs and bars is because i don’t think any people of my similar interest will be there. Getting drunk and high, dancing with a bunch of strange men, being in a crowd of women who hate me simply because im light skin, is NOT in ANY way shape of form my cup of tea. Im very quiet. The loud irrelevant music will get on my nerves. The bitches with the fucked up weave and staring problems will get on my nerves. Random men approaching me with the intent to get me drunk and have sex with me is intolerable. Why do women even put themselves in these situations? Like classy women/men who have respect and dignity are not found in places like these. Im much more of a “lets do lunch” or have small talk over coffee type of person. I really dont feel the need to be around or be friend with the highers and the drunkers lol or as my daddy likes to call them “druggies” lmao. But it all comes down to being comfortable with yourself. I was/am ok with being the ‘outcast’ kid who didnt do anything like how others did. I was confident enough in the way i did things that i didnt feel the need to conform to others way. As i did when i was 4, yucky people and yucky smoke are disgutsing and i want nothing to do with them. =)

See, when a man doesn’t care too much about a woman, its so easy to see. His ass forgets birthdays, valentines don’t mean shit, he has all the naked pictures lined up in his phone from 20 different broads, he doesn’t care to please her or attend to her needs. Etc Etc. But when that one woman walks into his life and she is TOTALLY different form anything he has EVER seen or had, his emotions go from peanut butter to jelly. hahaha. Straight up. His ass is cleaning the house up before she comes over, HE is the one who gets mad when SHE forgets birthdays and valentines. He normally lets those other broads get mad and walk out, but when this one does, he is ALL OVER yellow pages trying to find out where her mom lives, and research all the places she could be. lol its amazing actually. Just thought id point it out.

I was taking apart a futon today in order to move it upstairs into my bedroom. I like rooms to be very spacey so i moved my big ass bed out. I like lots of open floor space and minimum excess clutter. Only necessary items, if it was up to me i would only have a bookshelf, chair and small bed, but my mother on the other hand… =/ anyways. I had taken 7 out of the 8 screws out, so the weight of the futon carried on 1 screw. This last screw was absolutely atrocious in trying to get out, it was very hard to even get that thing to budge. As i sat there for almost 15 minutes working what ever muscles i could find in my hands with the wrench, i realized my life is the same way. People lose all the screws in their brain (crazy people) and then try to put all the weight on me, the last one with screws left (sane person). Just like the futon. They put all THEIR problems on MY plate, all their worries, anxieties, etc etc. Then i have to carry THEIR weight as well as my own, and that makes it hard for ME to move forward. Just like how all the wieght of the futon on one screw made it hard to take the last screw out and be able to move forward to the process of lifting the thing up the steps.. All in all, i realized i care too much about others and forget about myself, and then i also realized..

Lifes lessons dont always come from the books i read or the tragic events ive faced, they come from the little everyday things I do. I gauruntee if you open your eyes, every problem in the pysical world can relate to issues in your mental world. This is my life lol i blog about life lessons from a wrench, but ay at least i didnt have to do 5 years of coke and some weed to get to this realization right? ;)

Much Love,

Shina.

thelifeoftiffanyteresa:

I love you blog. And I will keep reminding you. You make me want to write! I love you girl =)

Thanks tiff! you made my day today when i saw this. I encourage you to write, girl write it all because i read it all lol =D!

Many people blame their parents for their bad habits. They have a valid reason to, but thats not where the process should end. Blaming them in the first place shows you admit to having that issue, now you can spend the rest of your life bitching about it, or you  can graduate to the next step in the process and change it. We dont have to be our parents in every aspect. At a certain age we should accept responsibility over our lives and change what we dont like in ourselves. I came from my mother yelling, screaming and having her emotions all over the place. When i was immature, for lack of understanding thats how i thought problems were solved. I came from my father letting my mother get away with a lot of ass out wrong stuff because he loved her to death and has been with her for over 34 years. So in my relationships i thought just sweeping the other persons wrong doings under the carpet was the correct thing to do. As i got older, more mature, i learned that i dont like certain things my parents did, that i now see in myself. It took years of work in my adolescents for me to stand up for myself in relationships and be able to be calm and ration when solving issues. Im only 18 and i began realizing and working on myself back when i was 15-16. So it amazes me when adults, i mean people older than I, who think they have absolutely no responsibilities in their own negative character traits. If i could do this as a teenager, you as a full grown adult have a full adult brain, your brain functions at a higher pace and understanding than mine does, so why have i exceeded you in evolution? but thats just personal opinion and not really here nor there. My best advice is, changing who your parents made you isnt that hard once you realize the person you want to be. I want to be respected in my relationships and have healthy relationships. I didnt want to be abused for my kindness like how my father was at one point. I also wanted to be able to handle life’s pressures with poise and grace. So i made that change and my life had improved because 1. i can look at myself and be happy and live with myself. 2. i didnt fall for the trick of blaming everything on others and 3. im one step closer to the person im meant to be. 

They say the apple doesnt fall far from the tree, but i say that even if it did fall close, it always has the abilty to roll further and further away.

You may act like your parents, your suppose to, they raised you so you learned everything you could from them, but as all humans, they had flaws too, so being able to recognize those flaws in yourself and change them, means you can one day be an even better parent to your own kids..

Life is a cycle, lets make the next round smarter.

Much Love,

Shina.

When i get put into a confusing situation, or a situation with any sort of animosity or negative impact, my first instinct now is to just leave. Like literally just walk away and keep quiet. I do that to protect myself as well as the other person. I cant argue my point valuably if Im feeling sad or angered by the situation and I protect the other person by not turning into a sarcastic asshole and saying things to them that would probably have them hate me for the rest of our lives. Ive come a long way from yelling and screaming when im upset, i got that from my mother. I had to train myself to just walk away and process whatever is going on, on my own. People think im a huge dick for just walking away or completely shutting down, and i can see why they think that, but honestly, its the best way i know how to handle the situation. I dont want to revert to yelling, screaming, being an ass, saying sarcastic shit and etc so i just retract myself until i can think about it all and have it register in my brain. I have come to learn that when you are the other person in an issue, you have the right to work things out your way so long as it is respectful to the other person. I dont mean to be a dick when i dont say anything or just take space, so dont look at it that way, take it as its the best thing for me to do otherwise ill turn into the hulk lol 

-Shina

We all are on earth, yes, but we all tend to be in different worlds. Worlds we create for ourselves and our space. Its hard to communicate with someone who you presume to be in a world different than yours. Maybe its someone who lives in another state, Maybe its someone you see only once in a while, Maybe its someone you see everyday and just dont know how to approach them. Maybe it someone who is on a different social status than you Etc, Etc. Its hard to speak to them when you feel like they might not understand where your coming from. I mean since we are on a communication note, its hard to talk to someone when they are never around. Its even harder to talk to them with people in their face all day everyday because you dont want to come off as being just another person talking game and trash. This is why i just keep my peace and keep my mouth shut. Chasing another person down and forcing yourself into their world is crazy people stuff lol If there is some force that is willing to build a bridge between another persons world and I, then it will happen. Forcing a bridge to be build may be very destructive. We arent bridge builders, the universe is much more advanced in this skill then we are. The universe starts building a bridge maybe months or even years before we actully pick up on it or actully meet the persons world of whom we are entering. Life has a funny way of putting us in the right time and the right place with faith. So ill let it be, When your meant to come around, i know you will =)

Much Love,

Shina.

Some beautiful women have a tendency to use their beauty as a scapegoat. They think cause they got a pretty face, the hair is looking right, got a nice shape, that the world is just to bow down and kiss their feet. That men need to spend all their money on them, that their game is so ‘right’ that they can get anything from anyone. See, i dont understand how they think that way, im not knocking them for it, but i just dont agree. I know im beautiful but i also know it takes just one carcrash, just one person throwing acid in my face, just one bad freak of nature accident for OUTTER beauty to be gone. It takes just one pint of ben and jerrys until there is a little extra flubber lol Just one dude to supply me with money, then go broke, and then have me go broke because he is broke lol I just cant have it. I think beauty is more so a womans ability to be intelligent, educated in various topics, her grace and poise that she carries herself with, the morals and belifes that she applies to her life, and the way she handles her beautiful self when life turns ugly. Thats beauty, beauty isnt whats given or whats put on, its whats obtained and acted. See being born ‘beautiful’ had nothing to do with you, God gave you that. The completion of the word beauty comes through traits your pick up. Obtained beauty is being able to carry yourself with dignity and all the things mentioned above. A woman can be beautiful on the outside with an ugly personality, ugly lifestyle, ugly everything else. Does that still make her ‘beautiful’ then? I say no. Beauty can only get you so far for so long. One day we all wrinkle and we all will be be old, being able to be beautiful then comes through your knowledge and grace, not face.

Much Love,

Shina 

People who DO NOT evolve or grow look at people who DO, and say stupid things like “man i cant fuck with you anymore, you’ve changed.” excuse me, but, last time i checked, we were put on this earth to grow, change and evolve. So sorry honey, i cant fuck with YOU anymore, because you HAVEN’T changed. What do you want me to do? Think the same way i thought 5 years ago? Act the same way i did 4 years ago? Keep the same friends as 3 years ago? I cant. Life is about progression. In each chapter of your life, you are provided with new contacts and opportunities. Hanging around the same people, doing the same things, will not further your education of this world. You have to go out and seek new knowledge, rarely ever does it come to you. If old people are telling you youve changed, and you know its for the positive, take it as a compliment, youve exceeded a certain old part of you and are now ready to take on challenges of the next chapter. Think of your life as a book, with each chapter comes new information to expand your horizions, will you stop at chapter 5 and leave the rest of the book unread, i mean this is your LIFE we are talking about. Its everything you make it, nothing less and nothing more. The decision to be happy, succesfull and educated lies in no ones hands but YOURS. get up and move forward, youve been sitting in chapter 5 for waaay to long!

Much Love,

Shina

“People don’t think about you as much as you worry about what they think”

“Each time you agree when you don’t want to, you give up a piece of yourself”

“If you take your time before you commit, you are more likely to judge the situation and be able to offer an unqualified no. You don’t need to give lengthy explanations or excuses. NO is simply NO”

“Being a chronic yes-person wins only modest, temporary accolades and sometimes little praise. People who expect you to be there for them often forget to be appreciative and begin to take you for granted”
“Stop measuring your self worth in terms of what you do for others”

Just a little out of my new book. Only on page 15 and iv learned a lifeful of information. I didn’t even mean to go to the library today but something told me to and I followed my gut. Next thing you know I’m checking this book out and now can’t stop flpping the pages. Its actully exactly the topic I wanted to further my knowledge on , being able to say no to the people I love. Thanks God, you have this little way of putting me in the right place with the right tools to further my development as a human being. Thank youuuu !

Much love, sheen.

When you go out looking for things, you never find them in the manner you wanted. See, this is because since you have set sail to look for it, anything that comes close to a clue for you to find it, your over analyze. You think the most random things have something to do with what your looking for. Your brain gets frazzled because it is focused on one thing while everything else in your life takes the back burner. Why go search for something..? i mean put in your efforts but don’t make it your entire life. Your energy needs to be balanced across the board in your life. Nothing should be sucking the energy out of you nor taking 23 hours out of your day. Your mind should be clear to make level headed decisions and it cant do that if its being cluttered with imaginary clues.

you can make this a blues clues episode, or you can run PBS as a network. its all up to you

Much Love,

Sheen 

See, im real cautious about who i bring around my inner circle and falling in love with them. Not even falling in love romantically, just having mad love for them to the point where id do anything for them. I have to be cautious about these things because I’m a lover. I tend to break my back to make sure the people i love all looking good, feeling good, are eating good and living good. Issue arises when dirty ass people front like they do the same but as time goes on i notice its 100% to 0%. Meaning im out here busting my ass to make sure they are good, and i get nothing along the same lines. Ive had to cut people like that off, and yeah man it hurts. But what always ends up happening is they come back around. Not to be cocky, but that genuine love i showed them, they cant find that anywhere else, so they try to slither their way back in around me. Not happening. And ill tell you why. Before i leave someones life, i speak to them respectfully telling them what im not appreciating, i ASK them if they can agree to change that, and if they say yes, and never do, that is ample amount of ground for you to no longer be a part of my life. YOU agreed to it, so it should have happened. Its not even like i demanded anything of you, i asked you because i respect your choices as a human being and know you wont change unless YOU want to. With all that said, im sorry things arent working out in your life and you need me to come fix all that, but shit, i got better things to do now. I was there EVERYTIME before, sit back and think to one time you needed me and i didnt come through? exactly. Hell even when you DIDNT ask for help, i still helped. You showed me you couldnt have the same respect and decensy to do the same, so you had to go. You probably thought id never leave right, thats maybe why your so surpirsed that i havent seen you in years,nor really bothered to aks about you, but hey, you were asking for it. I still have no bad blood, ill will, none of that, i dont hate you and honestly i hope you succeed and are blessed with all the tool and necessities to prosper. In the meantime, you can keep missing me, you deserve to.

Much love,

Sheen

Because i am a woman, i am perceived to be a womans advocate. This is incorrect. I am a ‘human being’ advocate. Yes, women have come SO far from the Victorian era where their corsets had to break their ribs in to be considered beautiful, and they were worth nothing more than a good meal and sex. I understand that completely, my point is, instead of standing up for woman, i stand up for whats right across the board. See being a woman or man does not change whats right and wrong. If a man puts his hands on his spouse or if a woman puts HER hands on her spouse, its wrong. Regardless of whether she is strong enough to do damage or not does not matter, the action itself is still wrong. If a man cheats, or if a woman cheats, its wrong. This is what I’m trying to get across: human beings all have the same sort of ‘protocol’ across the board which is set by society, thus we should enforce the rules across the board and not change our minds on punishments or discipline when we feel bias towards someone. For instance, just as a mentioned above, we think woman are phsyically weaker then men, so it doesnt matter if women hit men or not, see, this is a double standard, dont put your hands on that man unless your willing to waive your right to having him not put his hands BACK on you. Furthermore, once we can set aside our ‘bias’s’ and go ‘by the book’ we can actually ALL have the EQUALITY, JUSTICE, and FAIRNESS, America likes to think we already have…

Malcolm X said it best “Wrong is wrong no matter WHO says it or does it”

Start looking at the action itself, not the human being who committed it.

Much love,

Sheen 

Have you ever noticed when stores have sales, they always have the original price, and the markdown price as well to make you feel like your really “saving”. Well I Iook at it differently, clearly if you could mark it down $100, why was it that extra 100 there in the first place…? You see what I’m saying. If your company does well enough to take $100 off, why even have to charge that extra hundred. Then they try to flip the script and trick you into saving a $100 when really you never should’ve paid that 100 in the first place….

You have to question everything now days….don’t believe the hype, if you use your intellect, you’ll save MILLIONS over a lifetime. Trust. For every one person that gets away with jipping you, is standing another 5 behind him/her…

Much love,
Sheen.

I was reading this book called “Islam in context” just to get familiar with how the Islamic faith was started, and to get just general background information. (maybe when i see you, you can sit down with me and give me an in depth course… =)) anyways, so yeah, i was reading this book, and within the books pages, i got very confused. See, the book said the Prophet Muhammad was married to an older woman by the name of Khadija. The book also said that the way that they met was she was HIS employer! Ok, thats big. Its big because in the middle eastern countries, where the Islamic faith is practiced very heavily, especially in countries such as Pakistan, India, and Bangladesh, women seem to take the back burner. How is this possible?! Im not talking about women having to wear Hijabs, cover themselves, or anything of that nature, i understand why the women to do that. This is more so about the mentality of women across the board. There is STILL a sense of men being ‘in charge’ and i know this first hand because i have traveled to India. But thats neither here nor there, see my thoughts go along the lines of this : the founder and the prophet was employed by the woman he married. Meaning, she had her OWN. Meaning, she didnt rely on HIM. Wow, thats beyond powerful. And see, she didnt even hold that over his head, she wasnt like “oh i run you” or ANY of that nonsense, she played her part and handled her own. Even when he was having Visions from the angel Gabriel and thought he was losing his mind, she supported him, she helped him grow! So where do men get off being superior to women. I think they must of ONLY read about Muhammad 2nd or 3rd wife who was out to get him and would lay sharp stones across the path that he walked at night, but that wasnt his first woman! See, its all about interpretation. We all have our own views… And anyway, i truly respect Irshad Manji for stepping up and questioning the Faith. If your not familiar with her, you need to get your game up on par. 

This relays directly back to what Feisal and i ALWAYS talk bout. Interpretations of the Quran are SO varied… He went to the mosque yesterday and told me that the “preacher” (for lack of better words, sorry i dont know what he is properly called) said that people should just go by the book, meaning do everything as it is said in the Quran, but clearly with everyone being blessed with his or her own mind, experiences, and thoughts, there will always be varied ways of expressing the faith…

Just a little food for thought…

Much Love,

Sheen. 

Im nice, kind hearted, funny and sweet to people. I always try to put out good energy to them, make their day go a little better, you know, regular Shina stuff (for those of you that know me personally) but its like some people take that as weakness. They try to stand over me, show me their in control, they try to lock shackles on me. But why? I’m not here trying to steal your shine, your man, your house, your life, none of that. I don’t pose myself as a threat to people so why do they respond to me as if i am. Either way, thats not my issue to solve, its theirs. whatever insecurity they need to fix they can take a mental health day and get that shit worked out. hate to tell ya this, but i dont work that way. No one controls me, but me. Im not a punk when i dont respond to your snarly comments, racy attitudes and bullshit gestures, i actually dont respond because i dont give enough of a fuck about you to further the conversation any, nothing your saying changes anything im doing. I still have good grades, im still educated, im still gorgeous, im still running my shit properly, did you really think a couple actions and words could change that? When i go home and get into my bed, i absolutely do not think of you. I think of my next move, my next goal, what i need to achieve, what needs to get done, how much i love certain people, how happy i am to have them, how my dog needs a haircut and ETC. I focus on the positives in my life, thats what keeps me happy and going. Im sorry you cant seem to find anything that makes you happy and secure but in no way or means does that mean you need to take your insecurities on me. No matter what you tell me, im still going on to achieve great things. Now either you can ride along this journey with me, or you can step the fuck aside.

“Holla at a playa when you see one bitchessssss!” lmfao, Ay Fiesal, they know what it is =)

Much love,

Shina.

When people get money, it opens doors for them to move into a ‘higher’ social class. They are able to afford ‘nicer’ things and travel to different places, they also start to hang around and be in contact with different people who other people assume to be ‘better’. All that changes their immediate environment and thus them. So, without knowing it, they start to change as well. Some for the better and some for the worst. Worst ones get cocky, think people owe them shit, think the world runs on their time, act like complete corporate douches and yeah. But the better ones take those new experiences, new knowledge, new contacts and continue to prosper without changing their core values and beliefs. The better ones are a triple threat because they have money, can be humble, and can use their new found world to continue to reach high peaks of success. They dont forget who they are, they dont lose their “hard-working” skills and the people who once love them continue to love them as well as the new people they have come in contact with. They do not let material possessions phase them. They do not forget that God helped them along the way and they continue to pay their respect and love to him…

We may get more money, but that doesnt mean we have to change for the worst. Its ok to be a little flashy, you worked hard for it. But flashy should never change the way you react to and with people who dont have that flashy stuff nor should you find yourself doing things you swore youd never do. You can have money and be like every other jackass, dress like them, act like them, front like them. Or you can have money and stay humble, which in the end has always lead to more success. It leads to more success because you keep more doors open. Being a jackass shuts you off from many contacts because unless they are a jackass too they want nothing to do with you. But keeping contact doors open will gauruntee more positive results to come…

Much love,

Sheen.

Yeah when i was younger i acted like a little ass girl. broke a couple hearts, didnt give a fuck until mine got broken. Broke a couple rules, didnt care until the rules i set got disobeyed. Broke a couple friendships, didnt care until the ones that meant something to me got shattered. Acted a little vengeful, didnt care until they retaliated worst. What i learned through karma is, i need not to put out bad energy or actions REGARDLESS of what they did to me. Trying to get people back only keeps the bad karma on you going in circles around you. Karma also taught me forgiveness over revenge. Being able to forgive people and see karma bitch slap the shit out of them feels SO MUCH BETTER THAN getting the person back, having karma bitch slap them, then turn around and bitch slap me, for bitch slapping them lmao. I make sure i forgive people and keep it moving. why spend time trying to hunt you down to make you pay? look, i dont give that much of a fuck about you to stop my life and chase you down especially when i know in due time, your ass is going to get stung anyway. I have way too many goals, accomplishments, and other things to achieve. So i mean other people may be like “ahh she a bitch or she a punk”, but all i know it karma aint chasing me down and nor do i have to worry about her knocking down my front door. Im chilling, i dont have to look over my shoulder, nothing, im good. I got a clear mind and i dont let others effect what i need to get done.

Can you say the same? or are you busy planning your master plan, which eventully will be a master plan on yourself..

They say if your going out for revenge, dig two holes, one for that person, and one for yourself.

Much love,

Sheen. 

I like genuine, humble, mysterious, quiet, funny, sophisticated, intelligent, patient, hardworking, adorable,  truthful people.

Genuine because there is nothing more attractive than knowing you have the authentic version of a person. 

Humble because it shows me that you can feel good about yourself, your accomplishments, your goals, your possessions, without rubbing them flagrantly in others faces. Also because there is a beauty to being humble that most people never accomplish…

Mysterious because i like to figure thins out and if people lay all their cards on the table i tend to get a little bored lol

Quiet because there is a sense of “more figuring out to do”. Quiet people tend to have so many fascinating things about them that no one ever really knows until they work towards uncovering the surface..

Funny because I’m a jokester, im sarcastic as hell, my sense of humor tolerance is through the roof. I laugh almost everything off and i truly believe laughter is the cure to every tragedies, so making me laugh is like through the roof brownie points for you. lol Also, making people laugh shows good energy, positive energy and i love to keep that around me =)

Sophisticated because it shows class, it show that you carry yourself to a higher standard and caliber then the people around you. It shows you dont take the easy way out and you make sure you let your morals and beliefs run your everyday actions. It also shows your open minded-ness. Sophisticated people tend to have a open mind, which leads them to different experiences which further leads to them having knowledge/background on many different topics

Intelligent because this is my number one thing. Knowledge is powerful, but APPLIED knowledge is extremal powerful. I truly truly truly love being able to sit and pick at peoples brain to learn new things, to share ideas, to brain storm, to disagree, to agree. Meeting someones mind is a beautiful thing because every experience they have had makes them an individual and further leads them to think a certain way about things, so when you ask them about history, politics, art, music, etc etc , they may have a TOTALLY different, new persecutive, and to be able to hear that and expand my own knowledge is a blessing. 

Patient people are so damn gorgeous to me. It shows their tolerance to humans. See, as humans all make mistakes and live a double standard, we tend to get frustrated so easily with people who fuck up not realizing we fuck up everyday too. But being able to be patient shows a serious mastering of the world around you. It shows me you accept the fact that im not perfect and you wont penalize me for that, youll instead work with me towards being a better person. Patient people tend to have the most beautiful things come to them because they have learned how to wait and let the universe bring it to their doorstep. Just as important as it may be to master the skill of chasing, is just as important as mastering the skill of hunting. not every hunt requires a chase, sometimes the prey comes right to you..but thats just too much animal kingdom lol all im saying it patient people have the ability to maneuver properly through situations because they dont get worked up which leads them to clearer thinking which means they are more helpful. 

Hardworking because it shows you dont take handouts NOR EXPECT THEM. Hard working people make their situation happen BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY. sorry didnt mean to go Malcolm x in this, but you get my point. They always work for what they have which means in the end they APPRECIATE what they have. They learn to love the struggle and come out on top everytime.

Adorable because saying cute things really make my heart tingle. being able to be cute with me is like beyond reasons for me to put a ring on it lol. It shows sensitivity, lovingness, caring, nuturing. Adorable actions live in my mind forever, even if you leave, i always make sure to remeber the adorable things you did because it reminds me that i dont hate you 100% lol jk I love all that junk as hard as i may act lol

Truthful because its less of pain when speaking to you. If i can rely on you to tell me the truth as much as it may hurt, sting, burn, or make my cry, ill always love you for that. Telling people the truth is what helps them grow, not lying to them and being “yes men” to them. Truthful people show confidence and dignity in themselves, they tell you what it is because their conscious wont let them live if they dont…

and thats what i like in the people around me and in my inner circle. =)

Ive spent some time to myself these past couple of days, and i have come to realize i do not like the idea of people thinking that i am always available to them. They think because i have a cell phone, that i always have to answer. They think because I’m on a couple social networking sites, that their messages need to be responded to in 5 minutes. NO! NO! AND UHHH NO! I really do not know what the fuck these people think this is. I am the type of person where i need time and space to myself. I’m a very reflective, introverted person, so that quiet time is mandatory for my soul. It where i work through any major things that happened that week, good or bad, its my time to learn, to grow, to feel life. I do not have to respond to anything if i don’t want to. I have also come to realize the people who do not respect my space essentially do not respect me. If im clearly telling you i want some time to regroup myself, and you continuously blow my phone up, i cant deal with you. you will get cut off. We often forget that people have the CHOICE to respond to things, so when they talk to us, its actually a gift, even a favor. In no law is it written that we have to have someone to talk to us. No where. So this is my way of politely saying, just because i don’t answer your calls or texts, does not mean that i absolutely abhor you, it means i absolutely love myself…

Amazing what a little time off from technology can do for my mind…