Loving someone doesn’t come with a contract to agree to tell them yes all the time, they are great all the time, they are perfect all the time and etc. In fact, being a “yes-man” to someone you love stunts their growth; people need constructive criticism in order to progress. We as human feed off each other in knowing what we do best and what we do worst. When we hear criticism from those we love or those we hold close to our hearts, we get upset, and unless the other person is purposefully demeaning us, we shouldnt. Getting criticism from someone close shows their honestly and also the love they have for you. It shows how they want to see you grow and reach your full potential… you can take it however you want, its just easier to think the person is helping you vs getting angry and upset with them.
Now on the other hand, if you are the person critiquing, you must learn how to properly and respectfully talk to people. Not everyone in your life in the same, you cant show tough love to everyone and you cant be soft to everyone. Each person is unique and you really need to find the best suited way to get your helpful thoughts and suggestions across. Be patient and understand 2 very important things.
1. They will change, if THEY want to.
2. Be happy with effort, even if it shows no overnight results.
People are not fed ex overnight shipping lol a new them doesnt arrive in 24 hours, if you give someone a critique, and they are attempting to change, that alone should show you they care enough to take you into consideration. Maybe they dont want to change everything, and thats fine, but dont let that stop you from giving kudos to the things they did change or even tried to change. People wont live their lives according to you and you cant really make them do anything. Accept that. Being respectful of one another is respecting each others individuality…So even if they dont make that complete 360, give thanks they made that 180, and by giving thanks you show your appriciation, you show your respects, and more importantly you give that person a reason to want to change and be better =)