When there are two different personalities on the table, who has to sacrifice? If I am laid back and you are up-tight, how many times do I have to be to one who apologizes for not doing something up to your standard or not having it be timely enough? I am not talking about authoritative relationships such as parent-child or teacher-student. For them if something doesn’t get done on time it hurts you not them. I am talking about just mutual relationships between lovers, roommates, brother-sister ect. When the playing field is even, who has to give up more? Why does it seem like the laid-back person always has to come running behind the up-tight person to make things work. The messy room mate always has to try and keep things organized for the organized room mate. But why cant they alternate? Why cant things be messy for a week and clean for a week. Society wants you to believe whatever negative stigma’s you have about messy people, but if they have a system that works for them why try to change them? Just because you are different, why does that mean they cant be different? Instead of constantly asking people to change for you start accepting them the way they are. If it is a matter of business like owning a place w/ someone - negotiate/alternate. Things cant always go the up-tight persons way just because they are viewed as the “better one” for being organized/on time/whatever else they do perfectly.

This is coming from an up-tighter.

It ruins relationships, and if not that damn sure temporarily damages them to always want things to go your way in an organized fashion and on time.
When you take the time to view things from the other personality type, you can easily see how much of a douche bag you were…  Vivi e lascia vivere — Live and let live.